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Discipline with Respect in Caring Relationships- Parenting Book


Discipline with Respect

in Caring Relationships


   Geoffrey W. Sutton

Reviewed by


Discipline with Respect in Caring Relationships is an evidence-based approach to helping parents help children develop self-discipline. The program and the book has been well-received in public and private schools, churches, foster parent meetings, and other venues.


“With so many barriers to respectful communication, now more than ever parents need practical strategies to help their children develop into respectful adults. Dr. Sutton’s work connects timeless principles to modern wisdom in a way that challenges family habits and encourages relationship-grounded discipline.”

—Jennifer Poindexter, M.S., LPC - South Carolina

 Discipline with Respect meets many of today’s child-rearing needs. In it, Dr. Sutton conveys for parents and for other concerned adults his tested, effective methods for helping children to develop a sense of personal responsibility and self-discipline.”

—Dr. Julianne Lockwood, New Mexico

Discipline with Respect is informative, yet easy to understand. I recommend it highly. All parents have something to gain from such concise, practical reading.”

—Dr. Carol Brennan, New Mexico


“I appreciated the section entitled ‘When Encouragement Seems to Fail.’ I have puzzled over why certain rewards work well with some students and not with others.”  

—Brandon Nelson, M.A., Missouri

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Discipline with Respect in Caring Relationships



Introduction: The Principle of Respect    9

An Educational Challenge

The Relationship Factor

Elements of Respectful Relationships

Why You Should Buy This Book

What You Will Find in this Edition

 1. The Principle of Purpose     27

Purpose and Timing

Purpose and Plan

Purpose, Plan, and Discipline

 2. The Principle of Advertising     48

Personalize Your Message

Try a New Formula

Strengthen Your Message Using Signs

Interactive Communication

Target Your Audience

Be Persistent

 3. The Principle of Leadership by Example     66

The Role Model Effect

Questions Provide Guidance

Four Sources of Role Models

 4. The Principle of Coaching     85

Specific Feedback

Corrective Feedback


 5. The Principles of Encouragement     104

Encouragement Builds Good Habits

What’s Wrong with Rewards?

What About Giving Allowances?

When Encouragement becomes Discouragement

When Encouragement Seems to Fail

 6. The Principles of Changing Behavior: Guidelines     127

How Society Tries to Change Behavior

Negative Consequences and Attitude

Communicate Negative Consequences

Connect Negative Consequences to Misbehavior

Negative Consequences Should Be Fair

 7. The Principles of Changing Behavior: Applications    143

The Reprimand

Loss of Points and Repayment

Loss of Privileges

Corrective Action


 8. The Principle of the Pure Spring     167

The General Principle

Substitution at the Micro Level

Substitution at the Macro Level

 9. The Principle of Choice     187

Step One: Define the Problem

Step Two: List the Alternative Responses

Step Three: Choose the Best Alternative

 10. The Principle of Relationship Repair     205

Understanding Forgiveness and Reconciliation

Learning to Let Go of Past Hurts

Seeking Forgiveness and Sincere Apologies


Big Problems

 Chapter Notes     214

 References     224                                                      

Resources     229

 Acknowledgements     241

 About the Author     242


Sutton, G. W. (2018). Discipline with respect in caring relationships. Springfield, MO: Sunflower.  Paperback ISBN:  9781973149842

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