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Stuck by Rufus - A Review

  







Stuck:

Why We Can’t (or Won’t) Move On

  by Anneli Rufus

 Reviewed by

  Geoffrey W. Sutton

In StuckAnneli Rufus explores the intriguing problem of our tendency to get stuck in many areas of our life. Whether it’s being trapped in the wrong relationship, career, or town, or simply struggling with stubborn habits, many of us find ourselves immobilized. Rufus combines interviews, personal anecdotes, and cultural criticism to explore the dreams we hold dear and the road to achieving them.

When faced with the possibility of change, our minds play tricks on us. We convince ourselves that we “can’t make it” or that it’s “not worth the effort.” In a time of unprecedented freedom and opportunity, why do so many feel powerless and unsure? Rufus uncovers a complex web of potential causes, from fear and denial to societal messages that reinforce our helplessness.

The book also shares stories of those who have broken free and those who have decided that where they are is best. What appears as a rut to one person might be true absorption in a topic, relationship, career, pursuit, or place to another. Rufus challenges us to examine our motivations and consider whether we’re truly stuck or simply committed.

Rufus is a skilled writer so it’s easy reading.

Reference

Rufus, A. (2008). Stuck: Why We Can’t (or Won’t) Move On. New York, NY: MJF

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Geoffrey W. Sutton, PhD is Emeritus Professor of Psychology. He retired from a clinical practice and was credentialed in clinical neuropsychology and psychopharmacology. His website is  www.suttong.com

 

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